When planning any type of event or celebration, a thank you note is an element that is just as important as the invitation. But how do you properly thank someone in today's highly digital world? Are email thank you's ok? And what about if they have helped you in a very public way? Should the thank you be public as well?
Looking at personality types, some want public thanks and accolades, others want quality time and to know that you truly appreciate the, then others just want to do the good work. It's a calculated forumula to getting it right. And that's why so many get it wrong.
I think we all have an idea that if someone sends you a wedding gift it's a good idea to send a thank you note. After all, how do they know you got it if you don't thank them? Same goes for birthday gifts you don't open in front of the giver. But what about when someone helps you move? Volunteers to run a phone line at the fundraiser telethon? Helps you get elected to office? While Emily Post does cover most occasions, she's missing the boat on the whole digital age.
Why are thank you notes important? To show appreciation to guests, friends, and family. Thank you notes give people the opportunity to sit down and write out thoughts on paper to guests and when hand writing letters, people typically are able to express feelings that cannot be conveyed simply by a verbal thank you or a phone call. But what about those of us with super busy lives? Hyper scheduled kiddo activities and a 24/7 career? I say, that's what a corporate wife is for!!! It would be easier for me to put up a billboard in Times Square! Not that it never happens, but rare enough to say keep those cards, they'll be worth bank at auction after I'm gone!
So while thank you notes are the finishing touch to any event, I'm searching for a better, more long lasting and beneficial way to share my appreciation. Whatever the event, whatever the reason, it is the guests who help make the event, and it is the guests who shape the guests of honor. Without the guests, they would not be who they are. So those who help make the event what it is, should be shown the proper respect.
I know many of my etiquette friends will want to chime in on this! 🙂