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  • jessica posted an update in the group Group logo of RelationshipsRelationships 2 years, 5 months ago

    Hey all, I believe the key to finding the right person for you is to make a list of all the things you are looking for in a person. Include all the things you’ll except and not tolerate. It should be in detail so much to the point were you are actually creating the person from their look to their character; much like creating a sim. You shouldn’t let someone you don’t know from the street pick you. A lot of times people who see you pass by without knowing you are trying to date you, or pursue some kind of relationship with you only through looking at you isn’t worth keeping. Ninety percent of the time they are not looking for something long term or serious just thrills. Real good relationships take time to develop and you should get to know a person thoroughly before dating them. Getting to know someone through school is the best option or some were you can see how that person behaves regularly. Don’t settle for less just because you are feeling alone you will wind up with more problems that you did going in.

    • I have a top ten list but it can be revisited based on the importance of the listed attributes. Time is running out but i am not going to short change myself, top 6 will cut it for me at this time from my list of 10 but not below that..

    • First thing I found out about jessica, she likes the sims, you get bonus points in my book. Just had to say that.

      Secondly, she’s right. I’ve done this trick in high school and wrote front and back all the aspects that I wanted in a guy. It may be a bit childish, but I also put the list under my pillow before going to bed to dream about it. (I was in high school, so whatever works.)

      Finally, make a realistic list. By this I mean: I want a guy that has a billion dollars, owner of a ranch, has a 41k, etc, etc. You have to ask yourself: Who do you mean in your life on a day to day basis? Is the area or city you’re in going to yield results of you meeting that dreamy-eyed somebody that you could meet under normal circumstances? If you have several no’s on your list, it might be time to revise it.

    • I agree with this in the sense that it is a good idea to get to know who you are what you like, and what you are looking for. Also keep in mind that some things on the list should not be deal breakers. If you go looking for one person to fulfill every item on the list you may end up alone.

    • I agree with you that you should know what you are looking for in a person before going out into the dating world. That said people may surprise you when you find yourself falling in love with a person you only thought was a good friend or a good person for that matter. Men are better than women in knowing the kind of person they want to marry. When they find her, they have no second thoughts. Being a woman, my emotions get in the way.

    • I agree with your basic premise: don’t settle. My mother used to say this, and I love this quote (don’t know who said it) “You teach people how to treat you.” and that is especially true in finding a man/ being in relationships! It is really easy to pick a guy (or girl) who doesn’t meet your standards because you don’t want to be single, or you enjoy the attention from the guy you met at the bar. I’m glad writing a list has worked for so many people! I have to say, for me, that isn’t what worked. I actually did meet my boyfriend at a bar (he was the bouncer at the bar, where I was a regular)… I agreed to go with him on a date and we’ve now been together for over two years. Sometimes you do find love in weird places, and without expecting it. The list, for me, would have been too limiting because I don’t really know what I want down to the last mustache hair. I think it’s much more important to have confidence in and love yourself, and others will follow suit.